Posted by: ritagone | October 8, 2014

Discipling Younger Women



I’ve been studying recently in order to teach a two-part series on Discipling Younger Women, based on Titus 2:3-5, where Paul admonishes Titus and instructs him pretty specifically on how the chain of command, if you will, is supposed to work: wise men in the church community are to teach the older women of that community certain things, like reverence, the ability to teach what is good, and not to over-indulge in wine or indulge at all in slanderous verbiage.

Then those same older women are to turn around and train or teach the younger women in their own sphere to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands. Anyone reading these teaching matters today, in 2014, would probably be feeling the hackles rise on their necks. Busy at home? Why not teach them to get into the workplace and be career-minded? Why not teach them to be equal partners with their husbands rather than to be subject to them? These verses surely don’t apply to us today, modern men and women that we are, do they?

They do. They most assuredly do.

Perhaps the environment and social structure in which they exist have changed, but the guiding purpose still remains the same: there is a way to live, to behave, that seeks to prevent maligning the word of God…and God Himself. This is ultimately one of the goals and challenges of the believer, the person who walks closely with Jesus: to make sure that his or her walk points people TO God, not away from Him.

And that’s what we older women – however you define and measure “older” – are to be concerned with in terms of discipleship: are we spending time with the younger women in our sphere of influence, in our world, who can learn from us how to behave well in a culture where bad behavior is almost revered?

And of course to do that means that we older women must continually measure our own behavior and attitudes against Scripture, against Jesus’ mirror which He holds up to us to make us better people, better followers of His way, more like Him.

It’s all a part of the beautiful whole: men should be monitoring their growth and maturity against Jesus, then pass along to everyone around them what they have learned and are learning, including to the older women, who then pass it on to the younger women, who then communicate love and integrity and grace and truth to their children so that the next generation is impacted.

We are always only one generation away from apostasy, it has been famously said. In one generation everything we as believers have learned and hold dear can go down the drain so fast it can make your head spin, unless we all consciously and deliberately do something about it. Discipling those coming up behind us is one of the ways to prevent losing everything we know and cherish.

It’s the way things are meant to be in the Kingdom of God, in a perfect world. But of course we don’t live in a perfect world, so it doesn’t always work out the way it should. People shirk their responsibility to disciple, both men and women, and then there are great black gaps or chasms in the scheme of things. Or people don’t listen when they are being discipled, and the great lessons of one generation don’t get passed on to the next.

Still, when it does work well, when you see the positive blessings of the hours and months and years you have poured into someone’s life, you are forever grateful for the opportunity God has given you to be a discipler.

It is not a chore; it is an honor.

I would like to think that I’m being discipled constantly by, my husband, my pastor, my friends, my own Bible reading and study, and even, with great irony noted, by my children and grandchildren. Then I am grateful that I can turn around and speak into the lives of some of the most spectacular young women anyone could ever have the privilege to know and live life with.

So I guess the question for you, reader, that comes to my mind is this: are you being discipled by someone you trust, someone who knows well the truths of God and His word? If not, get going. Find a place where this can happen for you. It’s never too late to be a person who is being discipled.

And then, the related question: are you discipling someone less mature, younger, someone seeking what you have to offer? And again, if not, why not? Will you step up to this task, imparting God’s way of living to another generation who will in turn impart it to the generation after them?

It’s the ultimate “pay it forward,” and the rewards will blow your mind.



  1. Not sure I could even hope to still qualify as a ‘younger’ woman in anyone’s book anymore, but I am very grateful for the discipling influence you’ve had upon my life. I learn from you all of the time!
    Karen Hartmann

  2. Beautifully written!! This morning I had tears in my eyes from the joy of my daughters telling me Monday they are in a girls Bible study together and inviting their friends ,Jewish roommates to join them….no greater joy… Tomorrow I’m having lunch with a 30-year-old I met in my CBS group… We hit it off and it’s neat to see God place woman in your life…to love, support, counsel, pray….. Like u have been for me Thank you!!!! LOVEu,Jana

    Sent from my iPad


  3. Wise words. Thanks for writing this.

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