Posted by: ritagone | September 16, 2015

“Day Two”



No Turning Back (title)         Brené Brown, author of “Daring Greatly” and other great self-help books and now her current best-seller “Rising Strong,” which I’m now reading, is rapidly becoming my “guru” in terms of how to navigate many of the difficult aspects of life. (No, she’s not replacing Jesus, but her wisdom and insights are a natural companion to what He had to say in His Word.)

She talks in “Rising Strong” about a three-day intensive model training seminar for her program The Daring Way, a program which certifies professionals in helping fields who are interested in facilitating Brown’s work for their own good and the benefit of their clients and patients. If you want to be a facilitator, you have to go through the three-day program yourself (fair enough!), and over and over again Brown heard back from people that Day Two sucked. No one liked it; no one wanted to go through it.

She goes on to say, “Day two, or whatever that middle space is for your own process, is when you’re ‘in the dark’ – the door has closed behind you. You’re too far in to turn around and not close enough to the end to see the light. In my work with veterans and active members of the military, we’ve talked about this dark middle. They all know it as ‘the point of no return’ – an aviation term coined by pilots for the point in a flight when they have too little fuel left to return to the originating airfield. It’s strangely universal, going all the way back to Julius Caesar’s famous ‘Iacta alea est’ – ‘The die is cast’ – spoken in 49 BC as he and his troops made the river crossing that started a war. Whether it’s ancient battle strategy or the creative process, at some point you’re in, it’s dark, and there’s no turning back.”

We’ve all had our own Day Two’s, where we’ve set a course for ourselves, started along the way, and then wished we could turn around and go back to the safety and security of the comfortable, where we could curl up in a fetal position and suck our thumbs. But we couldn’t, because we had reached the point of no return, no turning back.

And that’s a good thing.

Human beings were not meant to stay static.

You and I, then, were not meant to stay static. When you stay static and don’t move, you shrivel up and eventually die. Oh yes, we do all die anyway, I know, I know. But there’s dying and there’s dying prematurely, before the last breath leaves our lungs, when we just stop in place and don’t or won’t move. That’s a death of another sort, and those are the people who never get to Day Three, which is where the rewards are.

Read Brené Brown’s book “Rising Strong.” You won’t be disappointed, and you may learn a thing or two about how to navigate Days One, Two, and Three.


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